We recently asked members of the BuzzFeed Community to share the subtle signs of a red pill in men. This is what they said:
If you’re not familiar with the term “redpill,” it’s used to refer to men on androdom (internet spaces that promote male supremacy and traditional gender roles). Basically, “red pill” men believe that men are disadvantaged and women are oppressed which is not true. This leads to misogynistic ideologies and behaviors.
1. “A major red flag is if they don’t consume art created by women. If they don’t listen to any female musicians or read any works by female writers, that shows a general disrespect for women.”
—lilatrainor101114
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2. “One sign of a man red-pilling is if he complains that he’ll never experience a relationship, and then he spouts nonsense like ‘Only 10% of women are attracted to 80% of men!’ or ‘75% of women have ridiculous standards and don’t like nice guys anymore! “Men sincerely believe in digital policies because it’s easier to blame women with ‘logic’ than accept that men might just be jerks.”
—Anonymous, 19, Ohio
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3. “As soon as anyone utters the words ‘alpha,’ ‘beta,’ and/or ‘sigma,’ that’s a red flag.”
-Anonymous, 37-year-old male, California
4. “The sign of a man’s red pill is when he says the word ‘real man.'”
-anonymous
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5. “One sign of this is that men not only have casual negative opinions about female celebrities, but they also have a strong dislike for them. Taylor Swift is my go-to. I find that grown men throw tantrums like little kids at the mention of the fact that I saw ‘Eras Tour.’ And when I say I went on a girls trip for this, the emotions ignite.”
——Anonymous, 40 years old
6. “Generally, one sign is that they have an ‘it’s all women’ mentality in order to place the blame on women. They complain about how they can’t date and it’s always the woman’s fault.”
-anonymous
7. “One sign is if a man says ‘If we get married, you won’t have to work anymore.'”
—Anonymous, 36, forward, Michigan State
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8. “One indicator is if he talks to you about the future when it’s just the kids.”
-Anonymous, 34, F, Toronto, Ontario
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9. “One indicator of a man being red-pilled is whether he believes Andrew Tate is more than a piece of trash. It’s a red flag when they say the way Andrew Tate treats women is understandable because ‘that’s what happens when a man gets rejected too many times.'”
-anonymous
10. “One sign is if they have a near-constant victimhood or persecution complex, which often leads them to blame others for their failures and to allege some vast conspiracy against men.”
-Anonymous, 47-year-old, male, Iowa
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11. “One sign is if they don’t take ‘no’ for an answer when they ask you out. One way they do this is by offering alternative date ideas rather than just accepting that you’re not interested.”
—Anonymous, 33 years old, female, United States
12. “A subtle sign when dating is that they present themselves with value (because they are told that’s what they think a woman cares about). I once dated a man who gave up on the fact that even though he lived with his parents and cared for them as they grew older, their home would be a huge asset to his future spouse after they passed away. The same guy described to me what he was doing in terms of disposable income and wanted me to be excited because I could make XX more per month if we got serious. Dollar. The early sign was that later on, he was unusually quiet while discussing the show and we cut off the conversation. puberty Then admits that he agrees that men can be persecuted by women who reject them. It was all there from the beginning, just subtle and disguised. “
—Anonymous, 43-year-old, female, Georgia
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13. “One indicator is if they ask women, ‘What will you bring?'”
—Anonymous, 37, female, London
14. “One sign is when a man gets very involved in a diet culture that only emphasizes protein and eating ‘pure’ foods. There’s nothing wrong with being careful about what you eat, but a completely balanced diet that includes good fiber intake, vegetables, fruits, etc. A completely high-protein diet indicates wading into the Mano Circle. That’s a big red flag.”
—Anonymous, 27-year-old male, New York City
15. “One indicator of a red pill is if they call women ‘women’ instead of, you know, women!”
——Anonymous, 38 years old, female, Canada
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16. “One sign is how they react when they talk about gender issues. I attend a large university in the Midwest. The university tends to be more liberal-leaning; however, it is in a red state, which makes it a diverse mix of political views. Since I was studying to be a teacher, some of our courses involved Learning how to teach diverse students, whether immigrants, English learners, or people with disabilities, one thing that comes up in multiple classes is gender and how to make sure your classroom is open and comfortable for everyone. I always look around and see some of my male classmates either squinting at the professor or not participating for the rest of the class.”
——Anonymous, 22, F
17. “One indicator is if they make oddly timed and inappropriate statements about gender norms. This often comes in the form of small jokes or hints. When others disagree, the men involved tend to get angry or frustrated.”
-anonymous
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18. “A red flag is if they get upset or annoyed if they see a woman existing outside of assumed gender roles or professions. A woman working in construction, STEM, automotive, etc. A woman wearing more masculine clothing, or a woman playing a contact sport. That suggests to me that he doesn’t have much or any respect for women. He sees them as existing in only one role.”
-anonymous
19. Finally, “One of the signs of a red-pill man is that they think a woman lacks enthusiasm or understanding of their interests, or that she’s interested in them for the ‘wrong reasons.’ This is especially common in nerd-related subcultures like gaming. Otherwise, when seemingly nice guys find out I’m a gamer, they get completely pissed off at me because they think I’m inherently bad at the hobby or use it to attract men. No, dude, I grew up gaming, just like you. You’re just a misogynist.”
——Anonymous, 20 years old, female, United States
What are some other subtle signs that a man has the red pill? Let us know in the comments or use the anonymous form below:
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